TEN WAYS TO MAKE YOUR WEDDING MORE EMOTIONALLY POWERFUL
If you've ever visited Disney World after going to a carnival, you understand the difference between a good time and a great time--a fleeting moment and a vivid memory. With so many grand weddings occurring around town and so many guests who've been spoiled by great food and entertainment at other events, don't forget that there are some very simple things you can do to make your party stand out from the rest. Remember that good vibes are contagious. The more love you put out into the universe, the more you'll get in return. Employ these tips to ensure that friends and family members remember their social interactions for many years to come.
1. Engage Older Guests Early in the Evening
Senior citizens often leave weddings early, and so do photographers who aren't contracted to stay past the bouquet toss and garter rituals. For powerful family dance floor photographs featuring multiple generations, it's vital to lure older relatives to the dance floor early in the evening. That means you may have reach back further than the Motown era to entice Grandma and Grandpa. Hard driving rockabilly hits such as "Rock Around the Clock" should do the trick. Emotional love songs from the '50s and '60s are another good choice for early evening dance floor interactions. A few well placed classics can make all the difference in the world. To be certain that you get the photographs you crave, ask your DJ to make a special announcement. "It would mean so much to the bride and groom if we could bring ALL of our family members to the floor for a special dance while the photographer is still here. This dance is dedicated to Grandma and Grandpa Wilson. Again, we would be so honored if you would all come to the floor for this special family dance."
2. Take Time for Personal Interactions with Guests
All too often, brides feel so overwhelmed by endless details that they forget to shake hands, kiss babies and look individual guests in the eye. Go out of your way to make each person you encounter feel as if their presence truly matters. You can do this by scheduling a meet and greet segment after the bridal party entrance, or you can do it with a hundred little gestures throughout the night. Arrive mentally prepared by jotting down a list of questions you've been meaning to ask friends and relatives. Did your cousin find the perfect graduation dress yet? Is your husband's college roommate dating anyone these days? Did your coworker ever figure out who swiped her homemade cookies from the break room?
3. Encourage Humor and Foolery
Want to try something even more powerful than playing dressup in the photo booth? Consider having a dance floor madness contest. For the duration of one silly song, instruct your friends and relatives to let loose and be extra crazy. The most charismatic and engaging person wins a prize! It just might be the most memorable dance of the evening. Song Suggestions: Brass Monkey, The Harlem Shake, The Humpty Dance, I'm Too Sexy andBaby Got Back.
4. Schedule An Anniversary Dance for All Ages
Nothing inspires genuine interactions between friends and relatives like an Anniversary Dance. Ask your DJ to make an announcement calling all couples who've been married less than five years. Play something modern and romantic as the young couples make their way to the dance floor. Switch to a 10-year-old love song as you call all couples who've been married between five and ten years. Fade into a 20-year-old song as you call all couples who've been married between ten and twenty years. Continue this pattern until you reach the couples who've been married for more than 50 years. When the oldest couples make it to the floor, ask the younger dancers to hold hands and form a circle around them. Play an extra special love song from the 1950s or '60s. You may even wish to surprise the couple who has been married the longest with a gift basket loaded with candy, movie tickets and gift certificates to a nice restaurant.
5. Do a Humble Little Routine
Don't be intimidated by YouTube videos featuring talented brides and grooms who went out of their way to create elaborate routines or take ballroom dance lessons. You don't have to move like a contestant on America's Got Talent to grab attention and win hearts. Use YouTube to find easy dance routines put together by High School Students. Motown dance moves are simple and captivating for audiences of all ages.
6. Have a Mother-Daughter Dance
Daddies tend to get all the love at weddings. Most scripts feature a segment for the father's emotionally charged dance with his baby girl, but only a small percentage of brides ask to dance with their mothers. The vision of mom and daughter locked in an extended embrace is both powerful and unexpected. I promise she'll be touched beyond words.
7. Don't Shy Away from the Dance Floor!
This may sound very simple, but believe it or not, I've encountered brides and grooms who don't like to dance. Inevitably, the energy radiated by the wedding party is contagious to others. Likewise, a sense of indifference toward dance floor activity can spread to guests. If your closest friends don't usually dance when they go to clubs, ask if they would consider changing that policy for just one night. Stress that you need them to support you more than ever.
8. Turn Your Friends into Late Night Photographers
As mentioned above, photographers often leave early, especially when they're not contracted to stay to the end. If your photographer won't be hanging around after the bouquet and garter rituals, he won't be there to catch the open dancing segment of the evening. Instruct your friends to get their cameras ready to record dance floor shenanigans. The unscripted dances often produce some of the best photographs of the night! Wedding guests are often so busy taking selfies that they forget to watch what's going on around them. If you remind them to keep an eye out for spur-of-the-moment photo opportunities, they'll be happy to help.
9. Release Sky Lanterns to Commemorate Your Big Day
Infuse your wedding with the wonder and magic of Independence Day! If you've ever set off sky lanterns on the fourth of July, you know that this activity has a tendency to bring friends together for powerful moments of star gazing. Best of all, sky lanterns are quiet. You won't be breaking noise ordinances. For added ambiance, hand out sparklers to burn as the lanterns float away to oblivion. If your venue is an indoor venue, call guests outside for a special "sky ceremony" after dark. You may even wish to speak a few words to your beloved partner: "With this sky lantern, I ignite a promise to love you on this night and every other night for the rest of my life."
10. Provide Useful Take Away Gifts
Avoid the temptation to give away wedding themed items covered with ribbons and flowers. Who actually needs a pink candle adorned by lace applied with a hot glue gun? This type of gift will be thrown straight into the trash if it doesn't complement the existing decor of a guest's home. Try these ideas instead:
- Different colored candles in mason jars. Guests can choose which colors and scents they like.
- Plain wine glasses loaded with hard candy in decorative wrappers.
- Tiny pies in decorative boxes.
- Little packages of homemade cookies.
- Small bottles of homemade wine.
- Tiny packages of gourmet coffee.